Before You Chase After People And Things...Do THIS...!

You need to reverse your thinking on this.

For most people, achievement equates to happiness. You get the worldly pleasures that mass media and your peers promise you, and you’ll finally live that life of excitement and fulfillment? But that’s a HUGE LIE! How do I know? Look at many rich and successful people. They’ve got millions…billions even sometimes, and they can’t seem to be able to maintain romantic relationships long term and often even struggle with substance abuse. What does this mean? This means that there is no reliable linear correlation from those worldly pleasures to happiness.

To be clear, this does not mean that those things will make you unhappy. It simply means that you can have all those things and still be miserable. Rich people can be happy or miserable and poor people can be happy or miserable (and the same applies to everyone in between). So, with that being the case, there has to be something else at play.

Let’s discuss the concept of lack - as in lacking someone or something. Lack is essentially that void (empty feeling) that arises when you feel dissatisfied or even unhappy if you don’t currently have the person or thing that you think will solve it. What people end up doing is chasing after the worldly desires that they think will bring them happiness and fulfillment. But what if I told you that this was like a mouse trying to catch it’s own tail? There is something behind that lack or emptiness that needs to be filled BEFORE you chase after any sort of worldly desire. You need to think of this in reverse…

In order to attract the things that will give you a truly fulfilling and vibrant life, you need to first become fulfilling and vibrant. Because, essentially, if you’re chasing after things through the rationalization that they are going to make you happy, you're chasing after them from a place of lack and desperation…not passion. This could mean that you get into a relationship for the sake of being in one (and fear of isolation). It could also mean following fashion or entertainment trends that you aren’t even into in fear of alienation. These are the results of operating from a place of lack rather than passion. But in order to operate from passion, you need to…

Get comfortable with yourself. And that means solitude. You HAVE to be and feel completely in control and satisfied when you are by yourself. At the end of the day, the only one in that brain of yours is you. And that means that at the end of the day, the source of positive emotions have to spring from you. How do you do this? There are many powerful tools I explore in my new book I highly recommend you check out. (Amazon LINK). But basically, it includes, self-compassion, mindfulness, meditation, and neuroplasticity. You need to rewire your brain in order for that passion to spring from your own self and so that you go after people and things you are truly passionate about (and often they will come to you with a lot less effort on your part after you’ve mastered yourself).